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Happy national gardening day 🌱🌸 may you have Happy national gardening day 🌱🌸 may you have a bountiful crop this year, whatever you grow! ((Peony tip: feed early-emerging shoots with a high phosphorus fertilizer for strong, lush blooms!)). Find more gardening tips on the blog, link is in my bio 🌿
Liam ♡ In an alternate universe we would be cele Liam ♡ In an alternate universe we would be celebrating your first birthday. You should be crawling around, playing, laughing and eating too much cake today.⁣⁣⠀
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You should be here.⁣⁣⠀
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My sweet boy I miss you more than words, I ache to hold you. We walked the orchard and planted flower seeds in your memory. We got winks from you in the form of the earth waking up, all the yellow blooms, including your magnolia which couldn’t have had better timing. It’s comforting to see you say hi.⁣⁣⠀
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And still, you should be here.⁣⁣⠀
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He was here for a time. He existed. He mattered. He deserves to be celebrated.⁣⁣⠀
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I loved him from the second I saw the +test. I fell deeper in love every time I saw his energetic body bounce around on the ultrasound screen, I have all the blissful bump photos and I have the memory of his sweet little kicks. God I miss those kicks.⁣⁣⠀
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My love did not end when he died.⁣⁣⠀
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Liam’s ashes, a few scan photos, my memory and an index card with his footprints are all that remains. I both hate that this is all I have left and am eternally grateful that I have them at all.⁣⁣⠀
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I found some comfort today but these anniversaries are also hard. I relive the trauma. The terror, shock, fear, disbelief, agony of being told your baby is dying. So deep and so crushing. Part of me died in that moment, part of me will never be the same again.⁣⁣⠀
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There is nothing in this world more painful than living without your baby. You feel the heaviness, the absence, the longing for them constantly. The grief is always there, it ebbs and flows but it changes you to your core. You adapt to feeling the constant emptiness, your aching heart, your soft but heavy eyes, the shortness of your breath, that lump in your throat.⁣⁣⠀
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And yet, I feel immensely fortunate to have carried you for every moment of your life. I will never regret the time we spent together, loving you, carrying you, feeling you, celebrating you and envisioning the life you would have had. I will carry the insatiable longing to hold you until the day I die. You will always be my baby. You will always be missed. I will never stop loving and mothering you, my sweet Liam James ❤️
How did we do with the bow!? It’s growing on me How did we do with the bow!? It’s growing on me I think 🥰😍
April 3, 2021 • just us this Easter weekend 💗 April 3, 2021 • just us this Easter weekend 💗
I’m not quite sure how she turned 5 months in th I’m not quite sure how she turned 5 months in the blink of an eye 🥺 My Elora. We are doing great ❤️ we’re nursing and bedsharing and babywearing and contact napping and I’m literally soaking in every moment with her. Months 4 and 5 have been the best yet. My body knows what to do and I follow her cues. We’re super in tune and I feel like it’s making both of us happier humans.⁣⁣⠀
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There is this unspoken narrative in our society that somehow attachment between mom and baby is a weakness, a crutch. I say f that, it’s one of the most beautiful strengths that exists in this universe. Period.⁣⁣⠀
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Mama if you’re reading this and need some validation or reassurance, I got you. It’s ok to cuddle and rock and nurse and sing your baby to sleep. Follow your instincts, tune out the noise, feel empowered in your motherly intuition and find your confidence in that. It is so incredibly liberating.⁣⁣⠀
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I know it’s a confusing landscape out there for new moms, I hear you, it’s easy to get overwhelmed and stress that you’re not doing something “right” or that your baby is “broken.” I’m not saying motherhood is easy for me, it’s the hardest (and best) thing I’ve ever done, but when women have the support they actually need and feel empowered in motherhood, that’s next-level world-changing stuff.⁣⁣⁣⠀
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Mama knows best, never forget it ❤️
Pregnancy after loss (PAL). Wrapping up this month Pregnancy after loss (PAL). Wrapping up this month of #pregnancyafterloss awareness by answering my two most asked questions ——⁣⁣⠀
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How did I know I was ready to try again and how did I survive my PAL?⁣⁣⠀
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Well friend, I have no definitive answer for you. I don’t know how I knew I was “ready,” I just knew I desperately wanted to be pregnant again, and I do not know how I survived.⁣⁣⠀
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Contrary to what I thought prior to having my own PAL experience, I was not “better” or “healed” or “over” my baby’s death once pregnant again. I think the only thing I could do was lean into the conflicting feelings and accept that they coexist for me (grief and joy, for example).⁣⁣⠀
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I want to share with you the two thoughts that did help ——⁣⁣⠀
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1. We were not replacing our baby (Liam), we were adding a sibling. Luca would be a big brother, as would Liam. My heart would expand for another child, not an “instead” child. Truly believing and accepting this was very helpful to me in my moments of guilt.⁣⁣⠀
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2. This was the most profound realization for me: That I would love this baby whether she lived or died. How did I know this? Because the grief I feel for Liam is love. I love my babies from the moment I know they exist. So during my PAL I thought, if this baby died too it wouldn’t change that love. I embraced and accepted that. I think it’s actually what allowed me to take these maternity pictures two weeks before she was born. It wasn’t hope, it was that I loved her and would want to remember our time together either way.⁣⁣⠀
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So maybe that is how I was able to survive. One day at a time, one thought at a time, facing the hard truths, embracing the pain of loss. Because, I’ll be honest, hope was hard for me.⁣⁣⠀
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Do I have magical advice? No. PAL was hard, it was a shitstorm of emotions and I feel like I just held on for dear life. Do whatever you have to do to survive, just know you are not crazy for the feelings. You are human 🤍

More resources can be found in my PAL highlights, reels and on my blog (link in bio) under ‘baby loss.’
This sweet babe is growing so fast!⁣⁣⠀
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Our beautiful @shoplovedua bassinet has been one of our most used baby items this time around! Functional and timeless, it is an item that grows with your babe, AND it’s discounted 25% today — head over to their page to shop 🥳⁣⁣⠀
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Growing through it 🌿 I was thinking back and re Growing through it 🌿 I was thinking back and reflecting on the past 365 days this morning. It’s been a rollercoaster to say the least.⁣⁣⠀
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Early March 2020 I found out I was pregnant again after back to back losses. I was hopeful and relieved but also doubtful, disconnected and terrified. I spoke in “ifs” not “whens.” I felt guilt and resentment and anger but also was so incredibly grateful.⁣⁣⠀
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We were quickly approaching Liam’s edd in April, a time that I deeply dreaded, and not even one week later went into full lock down pandemic mode.⁣⁣⠀
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I was a total wreck. Things felt veryyy out of control and uncertain.⁣⁣⠀
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I did the only thing I could do, I focused on what I could control. I continued therapy, started using tools like essential oils to help me stay grounded + present and threw myself full force into gardening.⁣⁣⠀
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I quite literally and physically GREW through my anxiety, pain and grief last year. My garden kept me grounded and sane and helped me feel connected to my body and my heart, out in the garden was one of the only places I felt safe letting my mind wander and imagine a living baby in my arms.⁣⁣⠀
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Growing veggies and flowers for my family was within my control and was exactly what I needed in this situation of heavy uncertainty — uncertainty both within myself and in the world.⁣⁣⠀
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March 2020 and March 2021 Christines are very different, I’ve realized the journey isn’t TO healing, healing IS the journey, it’s doesn’t ever end. I’m proud of where I’m at and humbled to think about where I’ve come from 💗
Elora Leigh is 4 months old!⁣⁣⠀ ⁣⁣⠀ MY Elora Leigh is 4 months old!⁣⁣⠀
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MY LORD. The joy and light this little girl brings our family🥺 If you would have told me last year that in one year’s time we would have had a baby and be living in a pandemic idk which one I would have believed less. Probably the baby. And yet here we are. Surviving through a pandemic with a toddler and a baby. AND A BABY.⁣⁣⠀
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My pregnancy with Elora was one of the most mentally challenging things I’ve ever done. Pregnancy after loss is extremelyyyy difficult (for reasons I will go into on a future post). Pregnancy after loss during an unexpected pandemic.... intense to say the least.⁣⁣⠀
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I could not speak in absolutes about the future, as grateful and as hopeful as I was I could barely speak about being pregnant again. Yes, I allowed myself feel all the things but in a way I’m only just now starting to process everything I felt during her pregnancy (thank you therapy🙌). For much of it I was in denial that I would actually get to bring a living baby home. The trauma and ptsd from losing Liam was ever-present. I was next level terrified she too would die before I ever got to meet her. I was holding my breath and hanging on for dear life.⁣⁣⠀
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So every single time I look at this girl I am still in disbelief that she’s here. She is here and she is healthy and she is thriving. The miracle that she is is not lost on me, the miracle that ANY baby is born healthy and alive is not lost on me. Every single day with my kids is a gift, as much as I lose my f*cking mindddd🤪 every day with my babies is a gift.⁣⁣⠀
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These days we’ve learned to celebrate the simple things and the little things, and today that’s four beautiful and chaotic months with our sweet baby girl💕
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Meaningful Gift Ideas for the Grieving Mom

November 28, 2020 / Baby Loss, Gift Guides

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Meaningful Gifts for the Grieving Mom

I hope this post is helps you in finding meaningful gifts for the grieving mom this holiday season. Baby loss is an extremely lonely place, feeling “seen” and heard can make all the difference and these simple gifts can help.

Before we jump in, let me start by saying I hate that so many women experience baby loss. I hate that so many know this pain, if you are walking through loss right now I see you and I’m so sorry we relate on this. I’m glad you found your way to my blog, I write a lot here and on Instagram about my baby loss and grief journey. Writing and sharing is therapeutic for me and I know it helps so many women to relate and feel less alone. Today I am happy to share some gift ideas for the grieving mom, gifts to help nourish their soul during an incredibly difficult time.

I’ve selected gift ideas from my favorite small shops that design unique and thoughtfully curated care boxes that help provide some love, support and comfort. Nothing can replace lost loved ones or takeaway our pain but we can offer love and support both tangibly and emotionally and I hope these gift ideas give you someplace to start.

One more thought…

In putting together my gift guides this month, both this one this for the loss mom and my new mama gift guide, I realized something. Whether a mom brought her baby home or not, the gifts are mostly the same — birthstone jewelry representing her children, calming crystals and oils for emotions, Christmas ornaments, home cooked meals, etc. I think it’s important we all remember that loss moms are MOMS, period. So when in doubt, when you don’t know what to get for someone you know who has just lost a baby, you can simply think about what you would get a mom who brought her baby home.

All that said and all physical gift ideas aside, the most meaningful thing you can do for a loss mom, in my opinion, is sit with them, listen to them, acknowledge their baby, acknowledge their motherhood and validate everything they are feeling. Grief is love❤️

I hope this guide and my gift ideas are helpful! xo, christine

Meaningful Gift Ideas for the Grieving Mom

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1 // Birth Flower Prints

Birthstones are well known symbols associated with your birth month. Less well known are birth month flowers. Representing my babies both with their birth stones and birth flowers is such a meaningful way to remember and honor them. This shop hand-draws custom family bouquets representing each family member (living or passed) by their birth months. When drawn together, they form a beautiful, unique and simple bouquet of flowers. The prints are extremely high quality as well, we are getting ours framed for Christmas so we can display it in our home.

 

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2 // Silver Wren Birthstone Necklace

Birthstones and initials — another beautiful and meaningful way I like to remember my babies, ALL my babies, and carry them close to my heart. Gifting a piece of jewelry like this to a loss mom means so much, you’re honoring her angel baby/babies just as you would her living children and that’s really all she wants. Acknoweldgement, validation and love mean the absolute world to us. Silver Wren jewelry is hand-hammered in the US, she even has an angel wings charm available for miscarriage.

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3 // Every Mama’s Heart

Absolutely gorgeous watercolor, personalized prints (names and footprints) and handlettered keepsakes for love and loss. I also love following Caileigh on Instagram, her words are beautiful and so relatable for loss moms, she has a truly amazing heart.

 

 

Gift Ideas for the Grieving Mom

4 // Kierra B Art

We were gifted this print by Kierra and it truly meant the word to us. I am not religious though I do believe in God and Jesus and until I saw this drawing of our family I did not know how much comfort it would bring. Kierra’s drawings are personalized, beautiful and deeply touching. The perfect gift for any loss family.

 

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5 // A Family Print Shop

I purchased this locket for myself after we lost Liam but I think it would also make a beautiful gift. She can print your baby’s footprints, ultrasound scan and/or name inside the locket. This makes me feel close to Liam and I love that. Make sure you set your alarms for their December launch – 12/1 at 9pm est – things sell out FAST!!

 

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6 // Casey Leigh Affirmation Cards

These affirmation cards came at a time in my life when I really needed them. They are stunningly beautiful and durable, not to mention the art and inspiration is swoon-worthy. I absolutely love them and think they would make a beautiful gift for any mama, especially a grieving mom.

 

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7 // Healing Crystals & Essential Oil Rollers

Everyone’s grief journeys are so different and what helps someone may not help another. For me, I have been leaning heavily on my crystals and oils (in addition to other things like therapy, nothing can replace that) and affirmations (see #6 above). At home these tools have been helping me beyond measure. As far as oils, scents can trigger responses from the limbic system, they can instantly change your mood, bring back a memory or calm your mind. I’ve used oils for years but it wasn’t until last winter, in the depths of my grief, that I was ready to try anything to help. They weren’t a cure-all and it didn’t happen overnight (more like months of consistency) but they did work, they have been extremely healing for me.

If you’re an oily mama try this roller recipe and give it to the grieving mom, I have a bunch of favorite emotional support oils but this recipe is my favorite, I call it Mama Warrior: in a 10ml roller combine 20 drops valor, 20 drops gentle baby, 5 drops White Angelica and top with carrier oil. For me that scent is an instant calm. My other favorites for emotional support are Joy, Stress Away, Sara, Sacred Mountain, Trauma Life and Acceptance. (Disclaimer: I can only speak to the efficacy and purity of Young Living essential oils, they are the only ones that have worked this well for me. If you want to join my team, click here!)

Crystals do the same thing, they are very healing to keep around the house, in your pocket/bag or in your hand. Whenever I feel anxiety attacks coming on I grab my amethyst point and mama warrior roller. It’s almost like a new energy comes over me. I found this set on Etsy if you want something quick an easy for healing crystals specifically for grief. Otherwise look for amethyst (calming), rose quartz (unconditional love), smoky quartz (grounding), selenite (protection) and moonstone (inner strength).

 

Gift Ideas for the Grieving Mom

8 // Bre Design Co.

Bre is such a beautiful soul, I’ve had the pleasure of working with her and sharing my story through her art work. She is so talented and has such a big heart that she uses to support mamas through loss, she is also a loss mom herself. Check out her Bloom in Color subscription, I think this would be a great gift for any mom – coloring is so therapeutic and Bre’s beautiful pages make it even more enjoyable.

 

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hope again- Gift Ideas for the Grieving Mom

9 // Hope Again Collective

I love when I see mamas manifesting their love and grief in beautiful, tangible ways and especially in ways that give back.

Rachel is a loss mom herself and makes earrings that are both beautiful and purposeful. Each pair is named after a woman who has bravely journeyed through baby loss and found the road to hope again. These stories so often stay hidden, and much like how I openly share my journey, Rachel’s company is also seeking to break that stigma. Plus, a percentage of every pair purchased is donated to help grieving moms find hope.

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laurel gift- Gift Ideas for the Grieving Mom

10 // Laurel Box

Laurel Box offers thoughtfully curated gift boxes designed to care for the soul after loss. I love these hand-packed gift boxes for bereaved mothers. Each item is carefully thought out and beautifully packaged into a care box. They also offer “make you own” boxes where you can create an even more personalized gift. Any mom would love a gift like this because the thought is so special, and the acknowledgment of their baby means everything. As for extras I especially love their birthstone and initial charm necklaces, feather wind chime and the angel wings ornament.


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 11 // Jizo

We love our Jizo, the joy and comfort he brings our family is measurable. I wrote a post about the beautiful meaning behind this mini statue and the Japanese art of grieving miscarriage, click here to read. We keep our Jizo right out in our main room on a shelf next to Liam’s urn, Luca cals him either Happy Baby or Liam and it’s truly been one of the most comforting things to our family.

 

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12 // Hazel Charm Shop

Handmade ornaments to remember your baby, I absolutely love the continuous line copper, so elegant and beautiful. It’s the perfect addition to our Christmas tree and I think any loss mom would love the gesture and the thought behind this way of honoring their baby.

Gift Ideas for the Grieving Mom

13 // Liana Lane Art

Liana’s art is so simply poignant and gorgeous at the same time, I was immediately drawn to her style. For some reason seeing a physical image of Liam and I brings me comfort. I’m not sure what it is but I love it so much. Liana also has gifts for dads available in her shop, there’s a lot to choose from!

14 // Non-Tangible Gift: Offer Household Help

This is a great idea to get for a family that has just experienced loss. Not unlike delivering a live baby, when you lose a baby and get home from the hospital, the last thing you want to do is cook. Help with food, help with entertaining our toddler, help with cleaning and doing laundry were some of the best gifts family and friends gave us.

If you’re not local to your friend check out Spoonful of Comfort — it’s great place to order a care package from and direct ship. You can also do a GrubHub or DoorDash gift card!

 

Thank you for checking out my post, Gift Ideas for the Grieving Mom, I hope it was helpful in giving you some insight on how best to show love and support for your loved one who might be facing an impossible time <3

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Happy national gardening day 🌱🌸 may you have Happy national gardening day 🌱🌸 may you have a bountiful crop this year, whatever you grow! ((Peony tip: feed early-emerging shoots with a high phosphorus fertilizer for strong, lush blooms!)). Find more gardening tips on the blog, link is in my bio 🌿
Liam ♡ In an alternate universe we would be cele Liam ♡ In an alternate universe we would be celebrating your first birthday. You should be crawling around, playing, laughing and eating too much cake today.⁣⁣⠀
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You should be here.⁣⁣⠀
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My sweet boy I miss you more than words, I ache to hold you. We walked the orchard and planted flower seeds in your memory. We got winks from you in the form of the earth waking up, all the yellow blooms, including your magnolia which couldn’t have had better timing. It’s comforting to see you say hi.⁣⁣⠀
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And still, you should be here.⁣⁣⠀
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He was here for a time. He existed. He mattered. He deserves to be celebrated.⁣⁣⠀
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I loved him from the second I saw the +test. I fell deeper in love every time I saw his energetic body bounce around on the ultrasound screen, I have all the blissful bump photos and I have the memory of his sweet little kicks. God I miss those kicks.⁣⁣⠀
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My love did not end when he died.⁣⁣⠀
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Liam’s ashes, a few scan photos, my memory and an index card with his footprints are all that remains. I both hate that this is all I have left and am eternally grateful that I have them at all.⁣⁣⠀
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I found some comfort today but these anniversaries are also hard. I relive the trauma. The terror, shock, fear, disbelief, agony of being told your baby is dying. So deep and so crushing. Part of me died in that moment, part of me will never be the same again.⁣⁣⠀
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There is nothing in this world more painful than living without your baby. You feel the heaviness, the absence, the longing for them constantly. The grief is always there, it ebbs and flows but it changes you to your core. You adapt to feeling the constant emptiness, your aching heart, your soft but heavy eyes, the shortness of your breath, that lump in your throat.⁣⁣⠀
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And yet, I feel immensely fortunate to have carried you for every moment of your life. I will never regret the time we spent together, loving you, carrying you, feeling you, celebrating you and envisioning the life you would have had. I will carry the insatiable longing to hold you until the day I die. You will always be my baby. You will always be missed. I will never stop loving and mothering you, my sweet Liam James ❤️
How did we do with the bow!? It’s growing on me How did we do with the bow!? It’s growing on me I think 🥰😍
April 3, 2021 • just us this Easter weekend 💗 April 3, 2021 • just us this Easter weekend 💗
I’m not quite sure how she turned 5 months in th I’m not quite sure how she turned 5 months in the blink of an eye 🥺 My Elora. We are doing great ❤️ we’re nursing and bedsharing and babywearing and contact napping and I’m literally soaking in every moment with her. Months 4 and 5 have been the best yet. My body knows what to do and I follow her cues. We’re super in tune and I feel like it’s making both of us happier humans.⁣⁣⠀
⁣⁣⠀
There is this unspoken narrative in our society that somehow attachment between mom and baby is a weakness, a crutch. I say f that, it’s one of the most beautiful strengths that exists in this universe. Period.⁣⁣⠀
⁣⁣⠀
Mama if you’re reading this and need some validation or reassurance, I got you. It’s ok to cuddle and rock and nurse and sing your baby to sleep. Follow your instincts, tune out the noise, feel empowered in your motherly intuition and find your confidence in that. It is so incredibly liberating.⁣⁣⠀
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I know it’s a confusing landscape out there for new moms, I hear you, it’s easy to get overwhelmed and stress that you’re not doing something “right” or that your baby is “broken.” I’m not saying motherhood is easy for me, it’s the hardest (and best) thing I’ve ever done, but when women have the support they actually need and feel empowered in motherhood, that’s next-level world-changing stuff.⁣⁣⁣⠀
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Mama knows best, never forget it ❤️
Pregnancy after loss (PAL). Wrapping up this month Pregnancy after loss (PAL). Wrapping up this month of #pregnancyafterloss awareness by answering my two most asked questions ——⁣⁣⠀
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How did I know I was ready to try again and how did I survive my PAL?⁣⁣⠀
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Well friend, I have no definitive answer for you. I don’t know how I knew I was “ready,” I just knew I desperately wanted to be pregnant again, and I do not know how I survived.⁣⁣⠀
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Contrary to what I thought prior to having my own PAL experience, I was not “better” or “healed” or “over” my baby’s death once pregnant again. I think the only thing I could do was lean into the conflicting feelings and accept that they coexist for me (grief and joy, for example).⁣⁣⠀
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I want to share with you the two thoughts that did help ——⁣⁣⠀
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1. We were not replacing our baby (Liam), we were adding a sibling. Luca would be a big brother, as would Liam. My heart would expand for another child, not an “instead” child. Truly believing and accepting this was very helpful to me in my moments of guilt.⁣⁣⠀
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2. This was the most profound realization for me: That I would love this baby whether she lived or died. How did I know this? Because the grief I feel for Liam is love. I love my babies from the moment I know they exist. So during my PAL I thought, if this baby died too it wouldn’t change that love. I embraced and accepted that. I think it’s actually what allowed me to take these maternity pictures two weeks before she was born. It wasn’t hope, it was that I loved her and would want to remember our time together either way.⁣⁣⠀
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So maybe that is how I was able to survive. One day at a time, one thought at a time, facing the hard truths, embracing the pain of loss. Because, I’ll be honest, hope was hard for me.⁣⁣⠀
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Do I have magical advice? No. PAL was hard, it was a shitstorm of emotions and I feel like I just held on for dear life. Do whatever you have to do to survive, just know you are not crazy for the feelings. You are human 🤍

More resources can be found in my PAL highlights, reels and on my blog (link in bio) under ‘baby loss.’

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