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Meaningful Gifts for the Grieving Mom
I hope this post is helps you in finding meaningful gifts for the grieving mom this holiday season. Baby loss is an extremely lonely place, feeling “seen” and heard can make all the difference and these simple gifts can help.
Before we jump in, let me start by saying I hate that so many women experience baby loss. I hate that so many know this pain, if you are walking through loss right now I see you and I’m so sorry we relate on this. I’m glad you found your way to my blog, I write a lot here and on Instagram about my baby loss and grief journey. Writing and sharing is therapeutic for me and I know it helps so many women to relate and feel less alone. Today I am happy to share some gift ideas for the grieving mom, gifts to help nourish their soul during an incredibly difficult time.
I’ve selected gift ideas from my favorite small shops that design unique and thoughtfully curated care boxes that help provide some love, support and comfort. Nothing can replace lost loved ones or takeaway our pain but we can offer love and support both tangibly and emotionally and I hope these gift ideas give you someplace to start.
One more thought…
In putting together my gift guides this month, both this one this for the loss mom and my new mama gift guide, I realized something. Whether a mom brought her baby home or not, the gifts are mostly the same — birthstone jewelry representing her children, calming crystals and oils for emotions, Christmas ornaments, home cooked meals, etc. I think it’s important we all remember that loss moms are MOMS, period. So when in doubt, when you don’t know what to get for someone you know who has just lost a baby, you can simply think about what you would get a mom who brought her baby home.
All that said and all physical gift ideas aside, the most meaningful thing you can do for a loss mom, in my opinion, is sit with them, listen to them, acknowledge their baby, acknowledge their motherhood and validate everything they are feeling. Grief is love❤️
I hope this guide and my gift ideas are helpful! xo, christine
Meaningful Gift Ideas for the Grieving Mom
1 // Birth Flower Prints
Birthstones are well known symbols associated with your birth month. Less well known are birth month flowers. Representing my babies both with their birth stones and birth flowers is such a meaningful way to remember and honor them. This shop hand-draws custom family bouquets representing each family member (living or passed) by their birth months. When drawn together, they form a beautiful, unique and simple bouquet of flowers. The prints are extremely high quality as well, we are getting ours framed for Christmas so we can display it in our home.
Birthstones and initials — another beautiful and meaningful way I like to remember my babies, ALL my babies, and carry them close to my heart. Gifting a piece of jewelry like this to a loss mom means so much, you’re honoring her angel baby/babies just as you would her living children and that’s really all she wants. Acknoweldgement, validation and love mean the absolute world to us. Silver Wren jewelry is hand-hammered in the US, she even has an angel wings charm available for miscarriage.
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3 // Every Mama’s Heart
Absolutely gorgeous watercolor, personalized prints (names and footprints) and handlettered keepsakes for love and loss. I also love following Caileigh on Instagram, her words are beautiful and so relatable for loss moms, she has a truly amazing heart.
4 // Kierra B Art
We were gifted this print by Kierra and it truly meant the word to us. I am not religious though I do believe in God and Jesus and until I saw this drawing of our family I did not know how much comfort it would bring. Kierra’s drawings are personalized, beautiful and deeply touching. The perfect gift for any loss family.
5 // A Family Print Shop
I purchased this locket for myself after we lost Liam but I think it would also make a beautiful gift. She can print your baby’s footprints, ultrasound scan and/or name inside the locket. This makes me feel close to Liam and I love that. Make sure you set your alarms for their December launch – 12/1 at 9pm est – things sell out FAST!!
These affirmation cards came at a time in my life when I really needed them. They are stunningly beautiful and durable, not to mention the art and inspiration is swoon-worthy. I absolutely love them and think they would make a beautiful gift for any mama, especially a grieving mom.
Everyone’s grief journeys are so different and what helps someone may not help another. For me, I have been leaning heavily on my crystals and oils (in addition to other things like therapy, nothing can replace that) and affirmations (see #6 above). At home these tools have been helping me beyond measure. As far as oils, scents can trigger responses from the limbic system, they can instantly change your mood, bring back a memory or calm your mind. I’ve used oils for years but it wasn’t until last winter, in the depths of my grief, that I was ready to try anything to help. They weren’t a cure-all and it didn’t happen overnight (more like months of consistency) but they did work, they have been extremely healing for me.
If you’re an oily mama try this roller recipe and give it to the grieving mom, I have a bunch of favorite emotional support oils but this recipe is my favorite, I call it Mama Warrior: in a 10ml roller combine 20 drops valor, 20 drops gentle baby, 5 drops White Angelica and top with carrier oil. For me that scent is an instant calm. My other favorites for emotional support are Joy, Stress Away, Sara, Sacred Mountain, Trauma Life and Acceptance. (Disclaimer: I can only speak to the efficacy and purity of Young Living essential oils, they are the only ones that have worked this well for me. If you want to join my team, click here!)
Crystals do the same thing, they are very healing to keep around the house, in your pocket/bag or in your hand. Whenever I feel anxiety attacks coming on I grab my amethyst point and mama warrior roller. It’s almost like a new energy comes over me. I found this set on Etsy if you want something quick an easy for healing crystals specifically for grief. Otherwise look for amethyst (calming), rose quartz (unconditional love), smoky quartz (grounding), selenite (protection) and moonstone (inner strength).
8 // Bre Design Co.
Bre is such a beautiful soul, I’ve had the pleasure of working with her and sharing my story through her art work. She is so talented and has such a big heart that she uses to support mamas through loss, she is also a loss mom herself. Check out her Bloom in Color subscription, I think this would be a great gift for any mom – coloring is so therapeutic and Bre’s beautiful pages make it even more enjoyable.
I love when I see mamas manifesting their love and grief in beautiful, tangible ways and especially in ways that give back.
Rachel is a loss mom herself and makes earrings that are both beautiful and purposeful. Each pair is named after a woman who has bravely journeyed through baby loss and found the road to hope again. These stories so often stay hidden, and much like how I openly share my journey, Rachel’s company is also seeking to break that stigma. Plus, a percentage of every pair purchased is donated to help grieving moms find hope.
10 // Laurel Box
Laurel Box offers thoughtfully curated gift boxes designed to care for the soul after loss. I love these hand-packed gift boxes for bereaved mothers. Each item is carefully thought out and beautifully packaged into a care box. They also offer “make you own” boxes where you can create an even more personalized gift. Any mom would love a gift like this because the thought is so special, and the acknowledgment of their baby means everything. As for extras I especially love their birthstone and initial charm necklaces, feather wind chime and the angel wings ornament.
11 // Jizo
We love our Jizo, the joy and comfort he brings our family is measurable. I wrote a post about the beautiful meaning behind this mini statue and the Japanese art of grieving miscarriage, click here to read. We keep our Jizo right out in our main room on a shelf next to Liam’s urn, Luca cals him either Happy Baby or Liam and it’s truly been one of the most comforting things to our family.
12 // Hazel Charm Shop
Handmade ornaments to remember your baby, I absolutely love the continuous line copper, so elegant and beautiful. It’s the perfect addition to our Christmas tree and I think any loss mom would love the gesture and the thought behind this way of honoring their baby.
13 // Liana Lane Art
Liana’s art is so simply poignant and gorgeous at the same time, I was immediately drawn to her style. For some reason seeing a physical image of Liam and I brings me comfort. I’m not sure what it is but I love it so much. Liana also has gifts for dads available in her shop, there’s a lot to choose from!
14 // Non-Tangible Gift: Offer Household Help
This is a great idea to get for a family that has just experienced loss. Not unlike delivering a live baby, when you lose a baby and get home from the hospital, the last thing you want to do is cook. Help with food, help with entertaining our toddler, help with cleaning and doing laundry were some of the best gifts family and friends gave us.
If you’re not local to your friend check out Spoonful of Comfort — it’s great place to order a care package from and direct ship. You can also do a GrubHub or DoorDash gift card!
Thank you for checking out my post, Gift Ideas for the Grieving Mom, I hope it was helpful in giving you some insight on how best to show love and support for your loved one who might be facing an impossible time <3